Do you know what your love language is? No? This post is for YOU! I came across this concept from Gary Chapman a little over a year ago & there is no arguing how true it is. There are 5 love languages & each person has 1 main language in which they receive love. Not everyone is the same & while you might think you’re loving them so hard by spending quality time with them, it may not be translating to your partner or even child. Yes, kids have them too! I’ve listed each language below & a short description of each.
Words of Affirmation – this love language uses words to affirm other people & their feelings. This sounds like “You look beautiful today” or “I really love how funny you are”.
Quality Time – this love language is all about spending time & giving the other person your undivided attention.
Physical Touch – this love language uses physical touch as the strongest way to receive love. Holding hands, back tickles, cuddling etc.
Acts of Service – this love language actions speak louder than words.
Receiving Gifts – this love language gifts are what makes them feel loved.
At this point you still might not know what your love language is, so there is this handy little quiz you can take.
Gary Chapman also has a book called the 5 Love Languages that goes further into detail. It’s great if you want to have successful relationships. If you don’t have time to read, sign up for Audible. It has been so nice to listen to books in the car on the way to & from work or while getting ready in the morning.
Heavy Checklist – “A podcast touching on an array of topics. featuring Discovery Channels Heavy D from the hit tv show Diesel Brothers. Along with long time friends and guests.”
This podcast covers pretty much everything. Entrepreneurship, family, faith, fitness, philanthropy, growth etc. I love this podcast because it really is a checklist. It is so motivating & at the end of each episode they challenge you to implement a few things each week, all of which I have loved.
Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations – “Awaken, discover and connect to the deeper meaning of the world around you with SuperSoul. Hear personal Oprah’s selection of her interviews with thought-leaders, best-selling authors, spiritual luminaries, as health and wellness experts. All designed to light you up, guide you through life’s big questions and help bring you one step closer to your best self.”
Nothing more needs to be said about this podcast, it is perfectly described. Listening will leave you feeling radiant with positive energy.
Up & Vanished – (Season 1) “Payne tackles his first cold case story, the long unsolved disappearance of Georgia high school teacher and former pageant queen, Tara Grinstead. The 11-year old case remains the largest case file in Georgia history. Up and vanished aims to tell compelling, true stories and give these cases the exposure they deserve.”
This podcast always leaves me wanting more. I also love that when Payne starts out he isn’t a seasoned professional and he has no problem telling you he’s learning as he goes. This cold case is cracked because Payne brings so much attention to the case. You must listen to this guilty-pleasure.
Rise Podcast – “Rise is a podcast hosted by Mogul CEO Rachel Hollis. A bold conversation with fellow business powerhouses that provides the listener with real-life tangible takaways.”
I love Rachel Hollis in general, if you haven’t read her book Girl, Wash Your Face. Go buy it. RIGHT NOW. Hands down the #1 book I’ve read to date. She is real and honest. She really is tangible to everyday people like you and me trying to chase our dreams. Her & her story are both equally inspiring.
The GaryVee Audio Experience – “On this podcast you’ll find a mix of my #AskGaryVee show episodes, keynote speeches on marketing and business, segments from my DAILYVEE video series, interviews and fireside chats I’ve given, as well as new and current thoughts I record originally for this audio experience!”
This recommendation comes along with a caution that it is not suitable for all audiences. GaryVee is VERY intense, some episodes too intense for me but there are some GEMS hidden inside. Gary is wildly passionate & extremely motivating. If you’re ever stuck in a rut, he will pull you out. Parental guidance advised.
Rise Together – “Hosted by Rachel and Dave Hollis the Rise Together podcast is more than just a conversation about their relationship. Each episode is filled with tangible advice that will get you and your partner to be the best versions of yourselves.”
Again I’m obsessed with Rachel Hollis & I think relationships are SO IMPORTANT. Probably the most important thing. Her and her husband who are pretty dang funny give their best relationship advice.
What are some of your favorite podcasts? Send me a message! I am ALWAYS looking for new ones to listen to.
Am I the only one obsessed with Amazon? They have free 2-day shipping & everything you could ever want HOW can you not be?? With that being said I’ve recently talked down the rabbit hole of Amazon organization & I wanted to share my findings. Below is everything you need to get organized this year!
Cable Clips – These aren’t just handy to have at your work desk, they are also great for your night stand to keep everything organized & within reach!
Necklace Hangers – This necklace hanger is simple & fits SO MANY in such an efficient way. I love it because it’s easier than traditional necklace hangers. You know the layered ones that hook on the bar in your closet because you can see all of necklaces hung flat with these.
Vanity Organizer – They make these little clear organizer for pretty much everything nowadays, but this one is spectacular because it fits all your awkward shadow, highlight & contour palettes you don’t know what to do with.
Broom Gripper – Not only can they be used for brooms & mops indoors but all the snow shovels & garden tools in the garage too! If you don’t like the idea of individuals there is also this 6 hook gripper.
LED Puck Lights – These might not exactly be for organization but they’re great for underneath cabinets & inside of closets so you can see all your clothes.
Happy 2019 everyone!! Welcome to the new year & the new site! Hopefully everything is a little easier to look at now that all the annoying banners and ads are gone! Woot woot!
I wanted to start this year off by sharing one of my New Year’s Resolutions with you all. It seems like a simple one but I KNOW that it is going to change my life.. Replacing hate or any negative energy with APATHY. What is apathy you ask? As stated by wikipedia Apathy is a lack of feeling, emotion, interest or concern about something of great importance. It is a state of indifference.
So what exactly does that mean? By replacing hate or any bad energy that you carry around with apathy it will allow you to let things go & not have power over you. This year I am taking back the reins. I think you should too. Stop worrying about what your moms, dads, friends or family will think if you fail or mess up. GO for what you’re wanting BELIEVE in yourself so madly that you can make anything happen. Already in just the few days we are into 2019 I’ve felt a difference. I will not dwell on the things I cannot change or control or fix. I will accept them and forget them. Letting go of the bad allows you more space to carry around positive energy and along with the law of attraction will bring you good juju for 2019! It will also give you more time to think about what is truly important to you.
Navigating social media can be tricky. Social media can be beneficial in so many ways to help us learn and grow, but it also can have such a negative effect we might not even realize. There are 2 main problems with social media that I can see that cause it to become this negative influence :
1- Comparing our lives to others who seem to have the perfect life & make us believe they have it all together.
2- We spend a ridiculous amount of time staring at this tiny screen.
I’ve seen people in my own life struggle with coping with social media in a healthy way. I will be the first to tell you the night and day difference it makes when you have a positive influence from social media versus a negative. If you’re the kind of person who deletes and reposts something because you didn’t get enough likes or if you are constantly tracking who is following and unfollowing you, THESE ARE BAD HABITS. You are relying too much on what others think & I truly believe a nice break from social media will help you get you mind right.
My first tip would be to hit the unfollow button for ANYONE who hurts your self worth or self esteem. Friends, family members, co-workers you name it. If it makes you question yourself or frankly it just irritates you, just unfollow them. You don’t owe anyone anything and there are no rules when it comes to social media & compromising your mental health for something so insignificant. Social media is exactly that media, media that you are choosing to consume. Do not consume the bad media. Get rid of it.
Instead, replace some of these negative influences with positive accounts. A few of my favorite things to see on my timeline are posts from @createthelove with Mark Groves – he talks about healthy relationships & so much more. Another for healthy relationships is @mindfulmft. Overall happy/inspirations @thegoodquote. Funny @memes.com.
TIME – it’s something that we cannot replicate or create more of. We can’t stop it we can’t get it back. Our time is precious yet we waste a lot of it scrolling.
The first thing I’ve done recently to work on this issue is place my apps all in one folder so they’re not easily accessible & they’re not the first thing I see to click on.
Apple has also launched an update on the iPhone X that allows you to set a limit on your screen time for the day and once you reach your limits if you click on one of these social apps it brings you to a screen that says you’ve reached you daily limit. It does give you the option to ignore it for 15 minutes or simply ignore for the rest of the day if it’s something urgent.
The next thing I did which I would HIGLY recommend to everyone is to start with a social media fast/cleanse. Whatever you call it, take 1 week off from social media ALL OF IT. After doing so I never realized exactly how much of my time I was wasting on it & how much more productive I was without it. So try it out! Give yourself a reality check, become the person who has more time to get more stuff done. Reach for your goals. Prioritize better. I know once you’re done you’ll feel so much better and you’ll have a new appreciation for putting your phone down and being present in your life.
THE MOST IMPORTANT thing to remember is that NOBODY is posting their struggles or their bad days. Everyone posts the happy joyus moments in their lives. Looking at my own instagram posts I know my life doesn’t look like that (I have worries and stresses and bad days but we don’t always see both sides) and comparing that little piece to someone else’s little piece is insanity.
Have you ever heard the saying you are the sum of the 5 people closest to you? The 5 people we spend the most time with influence and shape our lives much more than you might think. Your mindset, success, and interests are all affected by these people which is why it is so important for you to be picky about who you spend your time with.
Surround yourself with people who you would like to be like and remove those negative or toxic people from your life. It’s essential to your health, happiness and success. Find people who challenge you mentally, befriend the person who makes it to spin class every week, the family chef or the super mom/dad from down the street. Look for mentors who you can learn from and who can guide you, those who have achieved things you would like to also achieve. One quote I heard that has stuck with me is don’t take advice from someone who has not already done what you want to do. They might be between you and where you want to me but they have NOT made it.
Really when you break it down it is common sense. Muscles need to be tried and tested to grow in the gym we lift weights and break down our muscle so that it can rebuild stronger, by surrounding yourself with these people who challenge us we grow and learn and become the best version of ourself. If we live in this comfort zone and we are complacent we can never live up to our full potential.
I don’t know about you but my biggest fear is not taking advantage of my capabilities and the gifts I’ve been given. I want to become the best friend, mom, sister, wife etc. (insert your goals here!) There are books We can read and Ted Talks and YouTube videos and tons of other resources but the most influential is the people who are actually in our life on a day to day basis. Choose wisely.
For those that don’t know visualization is one of the most powerful things you can do with your mind. In a book I recently bought they talk about the law of attraction and how it is the strongest force in the universe. For some people visualizing things comes easy. From a young age I realized I was what most people call a ‘dreamer’. For a lot of others this creative side doesn’t come as easily and a more structured way to do this is a vision board.
NBA players and olympic athletes even use this visualization practice to help perfect their game. Our cheer coaches used to make us lay on the mat and play the music and have us envision hitting our routine perfectly. After 2 run throughs of visualizing we always improved dramatically or hit a perfect routine.
Why does visualization work you ask?
The neurons in our brains that transmit information see these visualizations and images and interpret them as real life. Our brain then creates new neural pathways that set us up to actually complete these tasks in real life. It also instills a confidence because we have seen what it looks like to achieve these goals.
Creating a vision board is to help you materialize your dreams and bring them to life. When you make your vision board it should not only be things that you want but it should also mirror the way you want to feel. I picked a few different goals in life and highlighted them on my vision board. I’m big on family so I included pictures of happy families that I hope to have one day. I want to travel a lot and picked a few of my tops places I want to visit someday. I want to be able to have a home office one day to be with my kids but still have a job where I can earn money and help support my family, so I included a photo of a home office. There are no rules and you can put whatever you want on your vision board!!
After you’ve completed your vision board put it somewhere you can see it EVERYDAY! Mine is above the bench where I get dressed every morning. It helps me start my day off right and on hard days it reminds me of why I do what I am doing.