“The Advice Book”

I wanted to make a post about “The Advice Book” I made for my little sister for Christmas. It’s such a sweet & sentimental gift to give to someone you care about. I’m actually not that crafty when it comes to making presents like this, but this one was actually pretty easy. I bought a blank journal from Target and got to work. My opening page (which I cried writing) is pictured below to help give you an idea. I wrote lessons I have learned along the way about boys, self-confidence, money, friends and threw in some quotes that have stuck with me over the years.

Here are a few examples :

“Be content with the process & where you are. You may not be where you want to be one day, but you will get there. Don’t waste today wishing it was tomorrow because the time will pass you by.”

 

“When your heart hurts :
– Eat Ice Cream
– Go for a Drive
– Listen to Sad Songs
– Listen to Happy Songs
– Take a Bubble Bath
– Buy a new Outfit
– Play with a Puppy
– Take a Trip
– Have a Dance Party
– Re-Decorate
– Watch Me before You to remind you that your life isn’t THAT bad.
– Buy yourself flowers
– Spend time at the Gym
– Kiss a cute boy
– Cry with a friend”

 

“If it won’t matter to you in 1 year, let it go.”

 

“LOVE is not a reason to tolerate DISRESPECT.”

 

“Happiness is just a way of looking at life.”

 

“Growing up is a lot different than you think it is going to be. Don’t set unrealistically high expectations. Take things for what they are and just go with the flow. Life is so good & worth all the hard times you will go through.”

 

“You’re NOT a snack if everybody has a bite…. you’re a FREE sample!”

 

“Negativity in all forms will kill your happiness before anything else. Get rid of negative people & negative thoughts.”

 

“Credit cards will get you in trouble. PROCEED WITH CAUTION.”

 

“People can’t read your mind, you have to learn how to communicate your feelings in a nice way. AND it will be different with every boy you date or every family member/friend you have.”

 

“Assumptions make an (ASS) out of yo(U) & (ME). *if you’re confused it spells assume.”

 

“DON’T :
– Push away the people who care about you.
– Stop learning
– Rely on others for your own happiness
– Do anything that doesn’t make you happy
– Beg for anyone’s attention
– Stop until you’re proud”

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Xx, Kennah

 

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To the girl who loves more..

This post is a little different from my typical posts about make-up or fashion and I hope that’s okay. I felt inspired to write this post dedicated to girls out there who feel just like me. The girls who always feel like they love more. I can’t tell you that I have found the guy who was worth the wait and heartbreak, but I can tell you he is out there.

To the girl who is still with him:

You’re worth more than this. You deserve better. You might not see it now, but you will one day. I’ve been in that place where I accepted less than I deserved. I always knew I wasn’t getting what I wanted from my relationship, but people have a way of making you feel crazy. Like you’re asking for too much. Respect, love, even assurance are all important things. Everyone has a different love language. No one deserves to be with someone who makes you question your worth or what you mean to them. The right guy will constantly be reminding you. He will not put himself in a place where he could possibly lose you because he can’t bear the thought of living without you. You are strong enough to leave and it will be worth waiting for the right one. I promise you are worth it and you CAN find it. You deserve to be happy.

To the girl in the dating scene:

The dating scene can be one of the most frustrating things. People will waste your time and play games while you are looking for something more, something that’s real and will last. You always put everything into everyone else and that’s what makes you so special. Do not forget that. No matter how people make you feel it doesn’t make you weak, it makes you strong. You have this incredible ability to love and feel. The right person is going to see you for exactly who you are. They will see the value of a good heart. When you find someone who wants to try, don’t hold back or hold things against them because of your past. Give them everything you’ve got because you only have one life and one chance. This love you’re looking for will find you and it will be too good to let someone who didn’t see your value spoil it for you.

To the girl who isn’t ready to date yet:

Until you find something that is worth your time focus on yourself. Put that energy you put into others back into yourself. When the one you’ve long been waiting for comes, you have to be ready. Knowing yourself first is very important because you can’t love someone else if you don’t truly love who you are. A wise woman once told me in order to be loved you must first be lovable. Find that girl. Love that girl. Prepare yourself to be a good girlfriend, wife, or mother. Whatever you want to be, you have to grow into that person. Read books, study things that interest you and most of all set goals for yourself. I have taken cooking classes, travelled to new places and spent hours at the gym. Discover new things about yourself. He will see you doing your thing and he will come.

Remember, what is meant for you will not pass you by. Look for the good if you are struggling, you will find it. Look for the bad and you will find it.

Xx, Kennah

Break-up Guide

This is my ultimate break-up guide. It’s not my favorite thing to be writing, but if it helps even just one girl through this awful process it is worth sharing for me. There’s a few things I want to start off with that aren’t steps, but I feel are still important for you to know and understand. Break-ups aren’t easy for anyone and they happen to everyone! You absolutely will be happy again and this is not the end. Your life isn’t over. You will move on and you will find someone again one day who can give you what you want and make you happy. Everything happens for a reason. I promise if they were meant for you they would still be here. They wouldn’t have put themselves in the position to loose you if they wanted to stay. This was meant to happen. It will make sense one day and you will be thankful.

The first step to my break-up guide is to accept that the past is over, you can’t think about what you could have done differently or think about regretting it. D0n’t let thoughts of them and who you thought they were take over.

The second step is to take the time to be sad or do whatever you want to do (only for a few days max). Lay in bed if you need to, eat ice cream, cry, or watch a sad movie.

Third, you need to get out of the house. Try to keep yourself busy. Go out with friends to dinner, (you have to keep eating and drinking even if you don’t feel like it make yourself) visit with family, or throw yourself into your work. Do your regular life stuff like going to the gym, running errands, getting your nails done. (DONT CUT YOUR HAIR! If you’re thinking you want to I encourage you to wait at least 3 weeks to think it over carefully).

The fourth step can be hard, but is essential in moving on. It’s time to delete your ex from social media accounts. When moving on sometimes it’s tempting to want to see what they’re doing or obsess over it. I promise you might think you have the self control now, but one day you won’t. Out of sight, out of mind. If you want to keep old pictures or texts do not go through them until you know that you’re ready and DO NOT TEXT THEM (try to do a phone cleanse or text a friend instead every time you feel the need).

4.5 I made a half-step because this isn’t totally necessary, but it is for me. Find songs that make you feel good. (Delete any songs that remind you of them). Sing your heart out in the car and in the shower. Try to loosen up a bit and forget about the heartache for even just a few moments.

My favorite step #5, (this is where it starts to feel okay, even if it’s just while you’re doing it) try something new. Something that you never did with you ex, something brand new that doesn’t remind you of them or make you feel sad. It’s important to do things on your own and find new hobbies until you can go back to doing the things you used to without feeling sad. You will get your sense of independence back and you can even set new goals.

6. HAVE FUN! Try to laugh and don’t let yourself just exist, be alive and present. Learn to let go and become you again.

When you’re ready you will be able to move on. You will be able to go out with other people. Just be careful not to do it too soon or push yourself. You’ll know when you’re ready. When you are, don’t start comparing them to your ex. Remember no matter how hard it is they will never be the same as your ex. No two loves will ever be the same and your new love can be better, stronger, and hopefully forever.

Best of luck with your break-up and if you need extra help or advice you can contact me here.

Xx, Kennah