goal setting

Hi guys, today I felt compelled to share what I’ve learned about building confidence in the last year. I’m sure there are many ways to build self confidence, but I wanted to share one that has been working for me.

A year ago my self confidence was shattered & I’ve been working on rebuilding it over the past year. The number #1 thing I would say is keep the promises you make to yourself. It’s so important to be able to trust yourself. When you say you’re going to do something DO IT! Building this pile of evidence showing that you keep your word builds not only trust but self confidence because you know that you show up. You will come to know that no matter what YOU make it happen.

Make a list of goals & then break them down into a weekly/daily goal. For example : your goal is to save $1,000 or lose 10 lbs. Think about the different ways you can accomplish each of your goals. Do you make coffee at home daily & only grab a coffee once a week so you have $50 extra a week you can save? Do you sell your old clothes online to make extra cash? Make a goal to list 1-2 new items a day on eBay for a week. You want to lose 10 lbs? Make a daily goal to walk a mile or workout 5 days a week or cut out soda. There are so many different approaches to each goal you have. Pick a path forward and stick with it, if you need to adjust later you can but just get started!

Tracking your goals makes them so much easier to accomplish because you always know where you’re at with it & what still needs to be done. You’ll get to check things off & continue to push towards your goal. The more things you accomplish the more evidence you have of what kind of person you are. Everything you do is a vote for what type of person you want to become. You have to get clear on what you want for yourself – what traits & characteristics are required for you to grow into the next version of yourself? You want to be a wife? What makes a good wife to you? Does she know how to communicate effectively? Read a book on communication. Does she know how to cook dinner? Learn a new meal to make. You want to be the best friend you can be? What would a good friend do to/for you? Do they check in on you? Do they bring dinner by on a busy night? Everything is subjective to what you perceive & how you want to show up in the world. SO DECIDE. Who do you want to be in this world?

One thing I know for sure : If you build your self confidence on validation from other people or compliments it will shatter with criticism. You have to build on a firm foundation, who you know yourself to be. What other people think or how they feel about you should not effect you – GOOD or BAD!

Xx, Kennah

One of my favorite things to do is set new goals. Write them down, track them as you progress, and finally CHECK THEM OFF! Here’s a few things I’ve learned along the way of my goal setting.

Write it down and keep it somewhere you can see it on a regular basis to remind yourself what you are working for. I also like to write why this is my goal. For example right now I am doing a sugar cleanse. I wrote my goal of how long I’m going without sugar, specifics on what I can/can’t eat, and finally my reason being that it makes me feel yucky, tired, sluggish & it makes workouts harder.
Be realistic with yourself. Instead of setting a goal to lose 20 lbs, break it down and lose 5 lbs at a time. You may find that you don’t actually need to lose 20 lbs just 15.
SET A TIME FRAME! If you just say I want to save money for a puppy or whatever it is, the likelihood of it happening at least for me is slim. I have to say I will save $1,000 for a puppy by such and such date, I will save $100 a paycheck to get there.
Don’t set too many. YES, I did just say that. If you set too many you lose focus and its better to zone in on a few and check those off and then set new ones. If you’re trying to do it all, everything gets half done and you’ll never get anywhere.
Set long term & short term goals. I.e long term you want to help people, your short term goal would be to volunteer 2 hours a week for 8 weeks.
Don’t be afraid to tell other people no. Something I struggle with is when I’m trying to resist something and someone says I’m dumb or I don’t need to lose this or do that and tries to offer it to me, I start to reason with myself. Just say no, don’t negotiate and justify. You’re doing this for you, not for them. Automatically know your answer is going to be no and pull out your reasons why.

Now go set some goals!!

Xx, Kennah