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Hi guys, today I felt compelled to share what I’ve learned about building confidence in the last year. I’m sure there are many ways to build self confidence, but I wanted to share one that has been working for me.

A year ago my self confidence was shattered & I’ve been working on rebuilding it over the past year. The number #1 thing I would say is keep the promises you make to yourself. It’s so important to be able to trust yourself. When you say you’re going to do something DO IT! Building this pile of evidence showing that you keep your word builds not only trust but self confidence because you know that you show up. You will come to know that no matter what YOU make it happen.

Make a list of goals & then break them down into a weekly/daily goal. For example : your goal is to save $1,000 or lose 10 lbs. Think about the different ways you can accomplish each of your goals. Do you make coffee at home daily & only grab a coffee once a week so you have $50 extra a week you can save? Do you sell your old clothes online to make extra cash? Make a goal to list 1-2 new items a day on eBay for a week. You want to lose 10 lbs? Make a daily goal to walk a mile or workout 5 days a week or cut out soda. There are so many different approaches to each goal you have. Pick a path forward and stick with it, if you need to adjust later you can but just get started!

Tracking your goals makes them so much easier to accomplish because you always know where you’re at with it & what still needs to be done. You’ll get to check things off & continue to push towards your goal. The more things you accomplish the more evidence you have of what kind of person you are. Everything you do is a vote for what type of person you want to become. You have to get clear on what you want for yourself – what traits & characteristics are required for you to grow into the next version of yourself? You want to be a wife? What makes a good wife to you? Does she know how to communicate effectively? Read a book on communication. Does she know how to cook dinner? Learn a new meal to make. You want to be the best friend you can be? What would a good friend do to/for you? Do they check in on you? Do they bring dinner by on a busy night? Everything is subjective to what you perceive & how you want to show up in the world. SO DECIDE. Who do you want to be in this world?

One thing I know for sure : If you build your self confidence on validation from other people or compliments it will shatter with criticism. You have to build on a firm foundation, who you know yourself to be. What other people think or how they feel about you should not effect you – GOOD or BAD!

Xx, Kennah

Have you ever heard the saying you are the sum of the 5 people closest to you? The 5 people we spend the most time with influence and shape our lives much more than you might think. Your mindset, success, and interests are all affected by these people which is why it is so important for you to be picky about who you spend your time with.

Surround yourself with people who you would like to be like and remove those negative or toxic people from your life. It’s essential to your health, happiness and success. Find people who challenge you mentally, befriend the person who makes it to spin class every week, the family chef or the super mom/dad from down the street. Look for mentors who you can learn from and who can guide you, those who have achieved things you would like to also achieve. One quote I heard that has stuck with me is don’t take advice from someone who has not already done what you want to do. They might be between you and where you want to me but they have NOT made it.

Really when you break it down it is common sense. Muscles need to be tried and tested to grow in the gym we lift weights and break down our muscle so that it can rebuild stronger, by surrounding yourself with these people who challenge us we grow and learn and become the best version of ourself. If we live in this comfort zone and we are complacent we can never live up to our full potential.

I don’t know about you but my biggest fear is not taking advantage of my capabilities and the gifts I’ve been given. I want to become the best friend, mom, sister, wife etc. (insert your goals here!) There are books We can read and Ted Talks and YouTube videos and tons of other resources but the most influential is the people who are actually in our life on a day to day basis. Choose wisely.

Xx, Kennah