20 things I’ve learned by 20

  1. Life goes on. No. Matter. What. Even if you think “how can I possibly make it through” or “there’s no way” guess what? You make it through. The world will never stop turning and you WILL make it through and you WILL be fine. Time truly heals everything.
  2. Learn to be content with what you have and where you are. This one I’ve struggled with in the past, but I feel like I get better and better everyday. I have a hard time with looking forward to the future too much instead of being content with where I am. I often found myself thinking if I just had the job I want ect. I’ve learned that everything is part of the journey and you should enjoy the whole thing, so even though I’m haven’t reached my goals yet I can still be happy with my progress and the process.
  3. Working hard IS hard mentally, emotionally, physically and any other way you think it could be hard, but it pays off and your victories are so much sweeter.
  4. It’s okay to cry. Crying is healing.
  5. Life will never be perfect or fair, but it is still good. You could be the best person in the world or you can plan something so strategically and think everything is going to be fireworks and unicorns, but a lot of times it won’t be exactly what you had in mind and that’s OKAY!! Don’t get worked up about the smalls things. Life happens to everyone.
  6. Taste buds change!! Growing up I was the pickiest eater ever, I hated anything healthy or green and wouldn’t try anything new. As I’ve grown I’ve become more brave in trying new things and learned they weren’t as bad as I thought they were as a kid. I even like tomatoes, onions, and salad now (except sushi, it will always be gross).
  7. Be proud of who you are. It does not matter what other people think (validation is for PARKING not people!) as long as you like who you are that is what’s important. So be weird, be silly, jump on your bed or dance like a psycho. Embrace everything that you are.
  8. High School is most certainly NOT the best years of your life (It is also not like High School Musical which is disappointing). I mean sure it was nice to not have to pay for your own things, but now you get to decide what you are going to do with every aspect of your life. You get to travel, you get to have your own life and family, you get to experience the real world and even though you have to work for your stuff now it means so much more than it did when it was just handed over (independence feels so good!).
  9. Friends are important. You will lose some, but this will only reveal who your true friends are and you get to build those relationships so much stronger. I still have my  best friend since 6th grade forever and some amazing others I’ve picked up along the way and that makes the luckiest girl in the world.
  10. Stepping outside your comfort zone is a good thing and can actually be fun. It takes some bravery to do this (and sometimes that extra push from someone who loves you) but it helps to build your character. You get to do things you never thought you could and you may even end up liking them, but it can only build upon from that first step.
  11. Taking time for yourself is essential in mental and emotional health. While it is fun to spend time with friends and family and make new memories it is also important to take time for yourself so you never lose that person. Take time to relax and unwind and just do absolutely nothing.
  12. Don’t stress. Put everything into the 5×5 frame. If it isn’t going to be important in 5 years don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset over it. Accept the things you cannot change.
  13. “It’s the small things” you’d think after about 1/2 the US population says it you’d believe it, but seriously it is. The things that end up meaning the most to me are the simple and unexpected things people do for you. Someone helping you load up your groceries at the store, opening a door a door for you, or even when your boyfriend tucks you in at night and turns on your favorite show for you like mine does. It’s the things nobody could plan the ones that just fall into place.
  14. Happiness IS a choice. I always thought this was just something people said and didn’t really mean until this year. Happiness absolutely 100% is a choice.
  15. Your happiness is more important. I’ve always been a people pleaser, but I’ve learned very quickly that people will take advantage of that. It’s not selfish to put your own happiness first because it is your life. Do what you want to do what what will make you happy, not what other people want you to do.
  16. Grocery shopping is a close 2nd to Disneyland. Never did I think growing up I would love grocery shopping as much as I do, but I’m constantly asking my boyfriend to go to Target, Harmon’s, Costco, or Smith’s with me. Maybe it’s because I have such a good shopping partner, but we love going up and down every aisle looking at and trying new things.
  17. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  18. Mom does know everything. As much as you don’t want to believe it 99% of the time she is right. Call it mother’s intuition, but I’ve been proven wrong almost every single time.
  19. Compromise is huge. You can’t win every argument and you aren’t always right. Try putting things into perspective and ask yourself if the topic at hand or if the person is more important. Then agree to disagree.
  20. Life is too short to waste time with anything. Make the changes you need to TODAY, quit waiting for tomorrow.

Xx, Kennah